Traditional Life Coaching vs Empowerment Coaching:
As a Life Coach, I have been practicing part-time for 4 years now, helping clients with achieving goals, list making, task checking, organizing their overall life and relationships and always helping parents re-structure their parenting and children (one of my personal passions). I have been there as their accountability partner to accomplish goals that have been put off due to lacking that one helpful piece: someone to keep you on your toes!
As an Empowerment Coach, it is a much deeper level of work. What we do together is in-depth digging-into the roots of what makes you tick, to uncover what is not working in your life, pulling up the WHY instead of just changing a few things here and there, and find where you are resonating emotionally. This, then guides us to homework and challenging discussions that eventually creates new neural pathways through Neuroplasticity-giving you a permanent, indestructible approach to your life. Or in other words - creates new routines and habits for you that will give you long-lasting change if you commit to facing the ugly stuff in life...which I will definitely pull out of you to be exposed for it to then be healed. Keeping things buried keeps our minds and bodies sick, builds illness and long-term destruction of relationships, jobs, and overall happiness in life.
Remember - quick fixes feel good, and you can keep pushing through day by day, week by week, month by month until you explode. Or you can start now by taking that first step to invest in yourself and create a hefty toolbox to carry around with you at all times, that you can use in any situation.
With repetition we can rewire our brains to do anything!
THERAPY vs COACHING
From my own personal experience and opinion below are my thoughts on this subject. You are welcome to disagree and still receive every single benefit there is of both Coaching AND Therapy!
I was in therapy for 25 years. So, to say I know the process of therapy is an understatement. I also worked with two Neuropsychologists for 4 years doing Accelerated Resolution Therapy and various other ways of healing Complex PTSD, which I had been diagnosed with at 28 years old.
Basic therapists changed my life, gave me perspectives I would have never discovered on my own, started me on my path to healing from various traumas, taught me skills and helped me build my toolbox of coping mechanisms, and best of all was free with my health insurance-something Coaching doesn't offer.
After being in therapy for 25 years they all began to sound and look the same. In my mid-twenties I had discovered Neuroplasticity and began taking free Neuroscience classes on YouTube at schools like Yale, Princeton and Harvard that students had video-taped. In addition to that I researched and studied every single resource I could possibly find and began rewiring my own brain-trying to undo my own trauma, not knowing what was wrong with me or why I couldn't seem to get out of repeating the same mistakes or behaviors because therapy was TOO SLOW FOR ME and I WAS STUCK!
If you read my book: QUIETING THE CLOCK, you know I was born with that tick, tick, ticking in my mind – never wanting to waste one moment of life. And after about 10 or so years of therapy, I began to feel they were all the same, saying the same stuff and not pushing me for real change or even caring if I changed at all! Just dragging things out week after week to keep me as an ongoing client.
I promised myself if I ever become a therapist or Coach of any sort I would never hold back information that could truly help someone, as I noticed so many therapists had done with me.
I'd never feel okay with myself dragging sessions out for years, when I have a wealth of information inside of me that I know could truly heal people in just a few months to a year depending on their individual needs and wants. I also felt that going the therapy route would not allow me to be creative with my clients and use the enormously versatile resources I can pull from. I didn’t know what I wanted to do as long-term career because I didn’t know Coaching existed.
I can't even count how many times in 25 years I had left a therapist's office crying or angry in a downward spiral for the rest of the day because they either wouldn't say much of anything except nod their head, answer my questions in a round-about way as if I couldn't handle the information, wouldn't stop talking about themselves, or stop 45 minutes in, to kick me out at that famous 50 minute mark - even though you are booked for an hour.
Why therapists move so slow is something I’ll never understand. I do understand going in steps and being gentle with the healing process, however I do not understand withholding information that could have catapulted my recovery in half of that time had I known to work with a Coach vs a therapist. I didn't know what a Life Coach even was, and Empowerment Coaches didn't exist yet.
When I discovered Coaching…
When I moved to Florida at 28 years old I decided I'd start to do Free Consults with Neuropsychologists since I had now been obsessed with the Neuro-part of healing myself and wanted to know more.
I needed someone intelligent enough to be able to keep up with my new lingo and discoveries of healing trauma that developed on a physical level. I eventually met two women who would change my life completely, forever.
That was a Neuropsychologist whom I worked with for 2.5 years and another one after her for two more.
Neuropsychologists are one of many role-models in my life who healed my CPTSD which made me able to do the four years of Coaching School who then completely transformed me and made me the woman I am today. While I was in the trenches of doing very difficult, yet transformational trauma work at home, I discovered Tony Robbins, Nancy Levin and other Coaches.
And that’s when I saw a reflection of the self I wanted to be when I’d be physically and mentally healthy enough to create a career.
What’s a Coach? How do I become that?
“Wow. This is EVERYTHING I am but don’t have the confidence to become. I already know half of this stuff because of my 25 years of therapy and being a professional patient…how do I get into this!?” I thought. I couldn’t believe there was finally a NAME to what I wanted to do with my life.
I began searching Coaching Schools and Programs…picking through the ones that were scams, hoping the one I sign up for isn’t one that will take my money and I get nothing in return but a piece of paper. And bam…I found my first Coaching School that I fell in love with. I did that while continuing my trauma work. Then two years later, I wanted to take things to another level – one that would apply at least the basics of behavioral neuroscience specifically - and that’s when I discovered a spitting image of my future self in the work that SWAT Institute does. I signed up, started the work, and two years later here I am.
I was so thankful to finally in a place to build a career for myself to pay it forward, transform lives, and help those out there who also don’t like to waste time.
So, now here I am on the cutting edge of Empowerment Coaching and taking my therapy and coaching skills to truly heal people in half of the time it took me by taking out all of the "fluff."
Now, I am a Certified Empowerment Coach who has spent the past four years building my Coaching business while completely revamping myself from the inside out to be the product of what I teach.
Two of those years were spent doing the intense curriculum and doing every single homework assignment I assign to you, while being coached myself by Empowerment Coaches. While doing all of that I was battling continuous mini-strokes, very sick for days and weeks in a row, had my 4th heart surgery, and was constantly in and out of the hospital.
I can easily say I transformed and learned more in SIX MONTHS of Empowerment Coaching
than I did in ONE YEAR of traditional talk therapy.
MY GOAL IS TO TRANSFORM YOU & SET YOU FREE!
OR GET YOU TO A SPACE WHERE YOU ARE READY FOR ONE OF MY PACKAGES FOR LONGER - TERM TRANSFORMATIONAL WORK!