Too Sick to Love

Message at bottom for ADULTS & PARENTS OF TEENS

Follow-up from my fun Blog Article called "Husband Casting Call" This was fun to write and I was cracking up the entire time. I also hope it helps others as well as possibly me.

Although this is also below the Husband Casting Call article, I am making a separate post since I know once I added the below info it potentially then became too long.

SO let's very briefly dig into this...

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No matter how you identify as a person born with or developed a Disability, Chronic Illness, Lifelong Illness, Terminal Illness, this is for you and your loved ones:

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LOVE & DISABILITY / CHRONIC ILLNESS is NOT EASY for anyone involved. We need someone who can handle struggle and juggle a lot at once, on and off. Yet also have the direct and honest communication skills to convey when they are overwhelmed to get through life together.

Love with a “sick person” is not the healthy person takes it all on then freaks out and blames the sick person for everything. NO.

The last thing I ever want to do is be a burden, and I know many others feel the same way.

This is one of the layers of Quieting the Clock, as well as something I discuss in videos on Youtube. Please see "Is Your Book for Teens?" and "Too Sick to Love".

Being in Love with a “sick person” involves immense amount of patience and genuinely WANTING this person in every way. If you don’t? If you lie and/or have a secret life of some sort? It will come out in your behavior, lashing out for no reason etc, claiming you have things like “compassion fatigue” which is misdirected anger if you refuse to get help for yourself and deal with your OWN triggers, to not then put that on a VULNERABLE brain and body (the “sick” person).

Being able to COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY when disagreeing stems from GENUINELY loving this person as well, and navigating each individual’s own triggers, taking accountability for our own triggers, and working on them both individually and as a couple.

These are amazing team building skills for any human relationship. Especially with love, which brings out our deepest unresolved pains and triggers.

Know better. Do better. Don’t be afraid of GROWTH, and each individual will evolve which will then naturally make the entire relationship happier and more peaceful.

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ADULTS & PARENTS OF TEENS:

I am doing a short series on up to 30 MINUTE Q&A Videos to cover questions people have asked me through the years that I have now either just seen or haven’t been able to respond to due to countless circumstances.

Drop Questions below about any subject or send them into HELLO@STEPHANIEROMER.COM to me and/or Alex for a man’s POV.

Any other CHD or other Illness/Disability men interested in joining, just email us! ❤️‍🔥

First Q&A Video is about Food & what I eat to help gain & balance a healthy weight as much as I can. It is titled HEALTHY FATS & Farm Animals

Second Q&A Video is about love and relationships called TOO SICK TO LOVE: Learning to Love with Disability.

Drop ALL Q&As in comments or EMAIL 🤓

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I absolutely refuse to use any form of AI to write. This takes away the authenticity, creativity, and genuine fun in one of my favorite things-writing. I am ME, not a robot (yet), so until then you will see run-on sentences, and all other writing errors that happen during social media or my Blog Articles. -Stephanie Romer, CHD Legacy,